bpdspyro:

what is abuse:

• – repetitive behavior that is specifically done to hurt you
• – they put you down constantly
• – they ignore you and exclude you on purpose in an attempt to control you/make you want them more
• – guilt trips, guilt trips, guilt trips
• – using money/physical abuse/sex/threats to control you
• – constant calling/texting when you’re not physically with them to “check up on you” and getting violent when you dont respond
• – threatening to commit suicide/hurt themselves or others if you leave them

what isn’t abuse:

• – hurting you feelings once or twice and not knowing they’re doing it because you’re not expressing that you’re hurt by their actions.
• – hanging out with another one of their friends/their romantic partners without you.
• – breaking off a friendship/relationship to take care of their own mental health/take care of their own problems first

You guys need to learn the difference because a LOT of people on this site are throwing around the terms “abuse” and “abuser” when in reality the “abuse” and “abusers” only fit the criteria under what ISN’T abuse.