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a lesbian literally can not be in a healthy relationship with a man like yes there are lesbians who do have boyfriends and husbands for a myriad of reasons but it’s literally not possible for a healthy relationship to exist. it’s either a lesbian forcing herself to be with a man bc she’s in denial about her sexuality or she’s forced to settle with men given unfortunate circumstances outside her control. there’s no way for anyone to be like “but im a lesbian in a healthy relationship with a man” it’s literally impossible and it makes me sad there’s girls out here who think that

i remember there was this whole sex positivity bullshit that happened that was like “ don’t judge lesbians who willingly have sex with men it’s subversive” like y’all really don’t see the problem with lesbians forcing themselves to have sex with ppl they’re not attracted to?? u don’t think there’s an underlying problem surrounding intense self hatred where lesbians (who are usually young and/or naive) think they can get fucked back into liking men.

and one of the reasons these lesbians would fuck men was to have control over their sexuality and separate their mind from their physical sensations and that’s literally so fucking sad?? like ur internalized homophobia is so strong that u feel the need to have sex with someone ur not attracted to so that u can overpower something that’s not in ur control?? obviously u cant control ur sexuality but u can control who u fuck so being able to fuck men gives u that feeling of autonomy that u so desperately want. being a lesbian literally makes u feel powerless so having the “strength” to fuck men fulfills ur desire for control n personal agency. and that really breaks my heart like it’s so fucking sad?? and the fact y’all pieces of shit saw what was essentially a cry for help as a way to promote some sex positivity bullshit makes me want to pull my teeth out

and i feel like it’s also an outlet for abused lesbians to handle their fear of men better like if you’ve ever been abused by someone a common response to that trauma is having sex with a person who resembles ur abuser. i think lesbians who have a traumatic history with men might respond to their trauma in that same way. it’s a way for them to take back ownership of their body n mind by thinking to themselves “i choose what gets to happen to my body and doing something that most lesbians wouldn’t dare to do, means ive conquered my fear. men no longer hold power over me” lesbians make me so sad sometimes, and it sucks our trauma is not something folks like to talk about n ppl have a hard time seeing us as complex individuals so they can never understand the shit that might be happening to us

and as always this post is NOT for terfs