this is coca-cola i can feel calm drinking. no bright screaming red. no anger. no hatred. just a nice sky blue. this is a soda i can feel relaxed with.
– repetitive behavior that is specifically done to hurt you
– they put you down constantly
– they ignore you and exclude you on purpose in an attempt to control you/make you want them more
– guilt trips, guilt trips, guilt trips
– using money/physical abuse/sex/threats to control you
– constant calling/texting when you’re not physically with them to “check up on you” and getting violent when you dont respond
– threatening to commit suicide/hurt themselves or others if you leave them
what isn’t abuse:
– hurting you feelings once or twice and not knowing they’re doing it because you’re not expressing that you’re hurt by their actions.
– hanging out with another one of their friends/their romantic partners without you.
– breaking off a friendship/relationship to take care of their own mental health/take care of their own problems first
You guys need to learn the difference because a LOT of people on this site are throwing around the terms “abuse” and “abuser” when in reality the “abuse” and “abusers” only fit the criteria under what ISN’T abuse.
a stray cat showed up in my garden earlier and i named him todd howard as a joke but now i have to live with this because my stepfather just said “todd howard didnt eat the cat food i left out for him”
this is him
op are there any updates on todd?
yes ! todd lives with us now and hes incredibly friendly and affectionate, here he is taking a nap on my bed
he also has a tendency to steal food, he slapped a slice of bread out of my hands and ran away to eat it recently
Iron in the Sand 