Yall can be edgy and talk about how much you hate tumblr all you want but I will be real chief I value my undeserved clout on here and its also the only place that shoots all my niche interests directly into my brain at the speed of light
The idea behind Tumblr, namely the dashboard, how posts and reblogs work (kinda like mini-threads that stream endlessly onto your dash), and the tagging system, is actually superb and I have yet to find another social media site on par with this format. Hence why we all stay here.
But then there’s also the incompetent staff and the extreme cultural madness of the website, hence why we hate it despite staying.
i just realized how absolutely earth shatteringly horny the internet at large would be for darth vader if the original trilogy came out right now
my god, every facet of his character, the mask, he’s tall, he chokes people, he’s evil, good god it would be apocalyptic, this website would be fucking unusable
people are horny for kylo ren and he’s just an intentionally infinitely shittier version of darth vader who sucks fucking shit comparatively just imagine
I think the straightest thing about straights writing LGBT characters is the lack of labeling. The utter and full lack of labeling.
I mean, sure, there are people who don’t like labels. But… most gays like to use the word gay. To describe themselves, a situation or just everything, really. I’m an ace lesbian, I have no problem saying that I’m an ace lesbian when asked for my sexuality. I’ve known a bunch of bisexuals at this point and they all very distinctively use the word bisexual and not “I don’t limit myself” or “what’s the point of labels?”.
It pisses me off so much because I think that it can be traced back to the fact that straights never actually have to use their label. They are default. So they are not used to putting words to their sexuality. And thus, I don’t know, it makes them uncomfortable that others would? Like, I really don’t know, that’s just my best guess. Either way, it’s insanely annoying.
Like, watching the new season of Chicago Fire and absolutely being smitten with Emily Foster and from the disastrous introduction on I went “Oh my gosh, after they killed off the lesbian character seasons ago, are they finally bringing in a new lesbian character? Yes, please!” and then she’s shown having a date with a woman, but when her work partner asks her “I thought you talked about boyfriends before”, I thought “Okay, fine. Not a lesbian then. As long as I finally get some wlw in all this straightness” but instead of having Emily just say “Yes, I’m bisexual”, she has to go “Why limit yourself?”. Who talks like that?!
LGBT representation is great. It’s important. I’m always glad to see it. But a huge part of prepresentation are the labels too. They’re a very important part of our identity for many of us. Yes, there are people who don’t like labels at all, but if you look at American TV shows, you’d think every gay ever absolutely denies labels.
Most representation is just through visuals. Through us concluding.
I love Shadowhunters. But the lack of labels on that show is making me insane. I spent months assuming Magnus doesn’t define himself with labels, which is a logical conclusion considering he’s 800 years old so why would he answer to such newly coined terms. With Underhill and Alec it’s vagueing at their gayness but neither saying it aloud. Aline was alluded to being a lesbian, but we don’t use the term. And whatever the fuck that scene with Raphael and Isabelle was, it was so obscure I had to google and look up the book-wiki to understand that Raphael was talking about his asexuality without calling it asexuality.
I did not connect with Brooklyn Nine-Nine as a comedy show at all, but fuck did I love how openly the term “gay” was used, how Rosa actually had a full coming out storyline, repeatedly referring to herself as “bisexual”. It resonated as so real and proper, not like those straight-written awkward gays that act like they’re afraid of naming their own sexuality.
Just call the sexualities by their names. It ain’t that hard. Real-life gays do it all the time. Stop having your LGBT characters vague at their sexuality like it’s fucking Voldemort.
Thank you, thank you, for saying this. As a bi woman I feel this so much.
People with ADHD tend to have time blindness.. Which means we dont tend to have a good grasp at how long things take.
Now this really fucks us up cause we end up being unable to start doing things cause we think it’ll take a long time only for it to take a very short time when we actually do it.
Now obviously if someone says ten minutes, we know what it means numerically. But what we don’t easily grasp is what can be done in those ten minutes.
My friends are coming over in ten minutes? I can easily clean up the house and change before then…… Wait, theyre already here? How’s that possible?!
Op I like you cuz you make me feel less shitty about my shortcomings. It’s not just me being shitty! Amazing! It’s a legit thing! Which I still need to deal with and stuff but at least it’s like, not just cuz I’m a terrible person!
A lot of what we are made to believe are our shortcomings are caused by factors outside of our control. We can learn to control them to a point but learning to recognize them as not completely our fault is incredibly freeing.
Does it work the other way round? Cause I often get extremely stressed out if I have to do more than one thing, feeling like no way in hell can I accomplish both in a day on time… and then both combined take like an hour and I’m left wondering why i assumed a phone call takes an entire day
Iron in the Sand 